Web Lecture 5- Liking pinciple

I took an upper GE class last semester where my professor stressed the importance of coming to class. Everyday he took roll and the professor basically learned everyones name in two days and which part of the room they sat at.

The funny thing about attendance was that he would make a scene to the students who never attended class. He would make comments like “wow you finally made it” or “let me take a picture of you so the class can know what you look like”.

Overall, the professor would always tell us that this is an easy upper GE class, just attend class and do your work. He would also emphasize how he was a good guy and we’ll always have fun in this class and watch movies related to the class material. Overall, he would use the liking principle to engender compliance.

In my opinion, regardless of the liking principle some students just wouldn't attend class.

Chapter 15- Gendered Closeness Perspective

The book describes how women express closeness and affection to their children by direct verbal statements and nonverbal expressions such as hugging and kissing. On the other hand, men communicate their affection by sharing activities.

I have to agree with this because I see this from my older brother and sister-in-law when they are around their son. My sister-in-law always gives him kisses and she will always express her love for her son. My brother basically does all the activities with his son. They always go to the golf range, movie theaters, and baseball games specifically the Giants games.

Overall, when I came across this concept I knew it definitely relates to my brother and sister-in-law and how they express their closeness.

Chapter 13- Confront or Avoid

The book mentions how the first choice people make during conflict is whether to confront or avoid the other person. The example used in the book is about a car that might not have been aware that the light turned green.

In this situation, I wouldn’t honk at the other driver. I would probably just wait patiently and avoid conflict. If for some reason I see the driver on their cell phone then I would honk at the driver because then I can assume that they are more concerned about the phone call rather than what is happening on the road.

Also, If I was not in a good mood that day then I would honk because my patients level would probably be at a low point. Overall, I think people would handle this situation in my different ways, but my first choice is not to honk, unless that person takes longer than 5 seconds to realize the light changed.

Chapter 12- Rebuff Hypothesis

In the book, rebuff hypothesis states that "when an initial message is rebuffed, follow-up persuasive messages are ruder, more aggressive, and more forceful than the first one". This can relate to my brother-in-law's neighbor who likes to complain about loud music. There was one night she used the "ask" tactic. She would ring the doorbell and ask if he could turn down the music, but the weird thing is that she would be complaining at 8 o'clock at night. It would be understandable if it was like 10 or 11 at night, but 8 o'clock is still pretty early.

My brother-in-law just ignored her request since it was still early in the evening. The neighbor's next tactic was more ruder and forceful. She kept hearing the loud music, so she walked over to my brother-in-law's house again and rang the doorbell like 10 times, like a crazy woman would and she said she was going to call the police and file and noise compliant if it wouldn't stop.

Overall, I have to agree with the rebuff hypothesis because she went from the "ask" tactic to more ruder tactics.